Sproglets

Here are the rules society never live by:

Never ask someone unemployed whether they have found a job
Never ask someone single when they are getting married
Never ask someone married when they are having children

You know what I hate more than Smug Marrieds? Smug UN-marrieds. You know the kind - all they ever want is to be married and have children - and think that is the only legitimate thing in life: shocking, these (of course, lonely) career girls. They might say they don't need a man, but really in their hearts they want a man, and 2.5 children. And of course, if one gets married, naturally, they want children.

The thing I can't stand is, the view that children are the be all and end all of one's existance. That children should come first in life. That there can be no fanthomable reason why someone would put off getting married, or having children or have an abortion.

Reasons not to ask if someone is having children:
1. It's too intrusive and offensive (hello, is like asking someone if they are having sex! or "are you infertile?" Take your pick.)
2. What? Do I look fat? Enough said.

Something worse, (that I have been getting), why aren't you having children? As if I owe an explaination to that person (what the hell, right?) for why I am not having children. Bad enough the person holds me to his/her standard, what I have to explain myself? None of your damn business.

Oh wow. This girl has a lot of rage. Ha ha. Anyway, very few people can ask me the question: best friends and immediate family - whom I know do it out of love and care. Not some random extended family or people I meet once a year if there happened to be a gathering.